Ellicott's Commentary for English Readers 8 Open thy mouth for the dumb. Such as are appointed to destruction.
But a significant minority, as a result of the trauma, feel called upon to engage in a wider world. I am 42 years Speaking out for those without a voice essay, and did my first media interview as a rape survivor when I was As the coauthor of a book about intimate partner rape, I have spoken many times via print media, television, radio, and also to sexual assault and domestic violence organizations.
Initially, I decided to speak out because I was sick of the social stigma that shamed survivors of rape. I grew impatient with waiting for society to change and make it safer for survivors to speak, and decided it was up to me to actively defy the stigma and speak anyway.
For me, this was a way in which I could be part of the change I desired. Why speaking out about sexual assault is good socially Survivors of sexual assault who publicly speak out create change in the silence that surrounds this crime.
Your act of speaking out can end the false sense of shame that survivors often carry. Seeing you cast off the shame may inspire them to do the same. Sexual assault and its wounds flourish in an atmosphere of secrecy, silence and myth.
Speaking out brings it into the light. The courage of survivors prepared to speak has agitated for legal change, brought about improvements in therapeutic approaches, and undermines in a very powerful way social myths about sexual assault that promote acceptance of this crime.
Your act of speaking out has the power to heal and change on a broader scale than you may know; never doubt it. Why speaking out about sexual assault is good personally Again, we hear from Judith Herman: In so doing, they feel connected to a power larger than themselves.
It is also richly empowering to have transformed my experiences into the ability to offer something worthwhile to other survivors. In speaking out, you become part of destroying the forces that have harmed and hurt you. This has been one of the greatest expedients to my own healing.
There is even a little thrill of vengeance towards those who attempted to silence me. The sorrows and joys of speaking out about sexual assault.
Initially, when I began to speak out, I wanted to send a message about overcoming shame, but found in the aftermath that I still very much felt ashamed and afraid that people would say negative things. I knew intellectually that I had no reason to be ashamed, but if you are a survivor, you know that it can take longer for intellectual truth to reach your gut.
Sometimes after doing an interview, I would feel quite flat and sad — though again, not sorry I did it.
It seemed to bring the parts of me that were hurt closer to the surface. It seemed to be easier to speak honestly to an impartial journalist than somebody closer to me. As well, answering questions about what had happened to me as honestly as possible, and providing detail, could be quite triggering.
It was necessary to take good care of myself at these times. However, the benefits of speaking out have by far outweighed these concerns, and I certainly do not feel as if speaking out has locked me into a victim identity.
Some of us who have experienced secondary wounding — that is, cruel or disbelieving comments from others, get set up to believe that everybody will think the same way, and that silence is necessary to protect ourselves.
In speaking out, we learn that not everybody thinks the same way. Fortunately for me, positive comment has been far more the norm.
Also, it can be wonderful to get hugs from other survivors when you speak at an anti-rape rally! I found that speaking out got much easier over the years. The opinions of the people who are helped by survivors who speak out are much more important.
It has also not been my experience that people say negative things at least not to me! There goes that woman who was raped. If you are contemplating speaking out: Things you may want to think about Your physical and emotional safety: Ultimately, your first allegiance is to your psychological and physical safety.
You may still be in danger from an abuser, or wish to protect certain family members who were also abused.Badly chosen essay content can easily create an essay that is off-putting in one of a number of ways I’ll discuss in the next section.
The essay is the place to let the admissions office of your target college get to know your personality, character, and the talents and skills that aren’t on your transcript.
Consider the following true stories: 1. Anne Cameron, a very gifted white Canadian author, writes several first person accounts of the lives of Native Canadian women. I couldn't agree more—we need to actively teach students out of using the five-paragraph essay, which is little more than an organizational framework.
Speak tells the story of Melinda Sordino, a ninth grader at Merryweather High School in Syracuse, New York. August before her freshman year, Melinda and her closest friends attend a party with seniors and beer.
At the party, Melinda feels uncomfortable and out of place. She gulps down a couple beers. - Malala Yousafzai I speak not for myself but for those without voice those who have fought for their rights their right to live in peace, their right to be treated with dignity, their right to equality of opportunity, their right to be educated.
Although the personal essay is a form of nonfiction, and thus the self you bring to your essay should be an honest representation of who you are, we are in fact made of many selves: our happy self, our sad self, our indignant self, our skeptical self, our optimistic self, our worried self, our demanding self, our rascally self and on and on and on.